| 05-26-2006, 09:56 AM | #23 |
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sounds like you've got a stage 5 clinger
the whole thing about a fist doesn't sound like a good idea either it's tough to have 2 people who are starting out with different relationship goals end up working towards the same situation. after 3 dates you shouldn't have to tell him anything, if he asks don't deny though |
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| 05-26-2006, 10:21 AM | #24 |
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No one wants to play second fiddle to anyone. If you have the courage to go out with him 3 times you should have the courage to tell him you are seeing other people. Furthermore, if you can't even commit why are you even bothering to date anyone? You should go to the bar get silly drunk, fuck someone and call it a night. Why drag it out for 3 dates!?!?!
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| 05-26-2006, 11:11 AM | #26 |
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No reason to tell him. You went on three dates, you don't owe him an explanation. And in my eyes, he's a bit insecure to bring it up first... Also, I'm an actual lawyer and will warn you, after he's done with law school you will have a completely different mind to deal with...be prepared.
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| 05-26-2006, 11:42 AM | #28 |
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You have to do the right thing in this situation.
Since he brought up the commitment situation, you should definitely let him know that you guys aren't on the same page. Tell him that you like to take it easy and slow. I wouldn't neccesarily tell him that you are seeing other people unless he asks you. I like to take the "if they don't ask, don't tell" approach. If you are (banging, f&cking, having sexual intercourse, making love, slamming, etc choose your favorite term), then I think the other person should know. You have to give him some kind of a heads up, but it may make him stand offish with you though
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3 dates only, no reason to bring this up yet. When you feel that you guys are at the stage of a relationship where you want to be exclusive, then thats the time to bring it up. If you really want to get into the topic, why don't you casually ask him how many other girls he's seeing, and he will likely ask you the same in return. Being passive aggressive works sometime.
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I agree with the other posters, i think its too early to tell him your thinking/wanting or are dating other people. However, that may suck for him, esp if in his mind, you two are exclusive or are very close to being exclusive. Or you can always be straight up honest and tell him how it is, dont sugarcoat. Tell him you dont want to be in a committed relationship at the moment..nuff said. If he cant figure that out, he shouldnt be in law school haaha.
But honestly Gee, it doesnt sound like your interested in this guy anyway. I bet if he was acting the same way you are by never calling, acting disinterested, you'd prob be all over his nuts.
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The fact that you posted this question means you are seriously contemplating telling him, which also implies that you want to either break things off or goad him into starting something. Period. People don't normally open their mouths for no reason, expecting nothing to happen. People open their mouths in order to cause an effect. So you want something out of him: either you want him to step up his game Mac-style or back off Puck-style.
But hey, when I was pimping back in the days this elusive woman told me straightup she's not into monogamous relationships and then tried to fend me off by telling me she was engaged with some other dude. At the same time, the Menacing Mac Master taught me how to be a ladies man and with my acquried skills I captured this wild woman from the jungle and tamed her ass with such quickness before Imperial can even say BA-ZING! It's time to go back to work. Dammit.
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I've had the same experience. I've gone out with 3 or 4 dates with this one girl and she asked me if we were bf or gf.. I said no, only because i'm dating other girls and I don't wanna commit. I wouldn't say anything about dating other people, it's really none of her business.
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If you're dating other people, you should be forthright about it. There is nothing worse than mixed signals and bad communication. Just make sure that he understands your perspective.
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I think if you're dating someone, that it's understood that you're dating other people. There's no need to bring it up in a formal conversation, and if you have a date that conflicts, just say you have another date that day. That's a clear enough message. 3 dates, you owe the guy nothing. People date more than one person at a time all the time. Nothing wrong with it IMO.
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To give a short update:
We are still dating. I stopped dating other ppl and so has he but I'm not ready to say the word yet... yanno, starts with a B and ends in a friend... So we've been seeing each other since May and everything is laid back and cool and I'm enjoying it.
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