Dating - Good/Bad Experiences

[MKSixer]

Best. Story. Ever.
God bless you both and thanks for sharing this beautiful life experience!!

Originally Posted by Nuckle

My favorite dating story of my life:
So 23 years ago a buddy of mine's girlfriend asked me if I would meet a friend of hers. I said sure and we did a double date thing and I fell head over hills for a girl named Christy almost immediately. We dated for about a month and things were going great. I was so into this girl that I actually pushed back from having sex with her as I didn't want that to complicate things or accelerate things too quickly to just burn out. All of a sudden she stopped returning my calls. I was dumbfounded, I could not figure out what was going on. At the time I had a cell phone but she didn't and the only way for me to try to reach her was at home. I finally talked her mom into making her talk to me and let me know why we were done. She called and was squalling. She was pregnant and obviously it was not mine. She had had sex with her boyfriend the day before they broke up and we met that following weekend. I was kind, I loved her but I told her that I wasn't ready for that level of responsibility and that she should probably try to work thing out with him and they raise this child together.

I moved on and met my ex wife. We were married 17 years, some were good but many were not. Thing finally come to a head and we divorced. Under severe protest from friends and family I settled with the ex in 3 days. I gave up all equities and agreed to a ridiculous alimony amount. I just wanted to get it done so I could go find real love and happiness. I have a job with unlimited income potential and knew that I could replace financial gains but the need to find a healthy relationship was more important. Alabama has a 30 wait on divorces once they are settled.

So my divorce would be final on a Monday. The weekend prior my lifelong best friend and his wife invited me to their lake house. That Saturday night his wife which I have also known most of my life told me she had two women that wanted to go out with me when I was ready. She then asked me if there was anyone from my past that I would want to meet up with again. I told her the only girl that I have thought about and thought about often was Christy ______. I told her I that I had no idea where she was or if she was married or even alive. Being a big face booker at the time I had never seen her pop up as a friend suggestion, or anything. Her eyes lit up and she said she still lives in the area. That she was friends with her on Facebook and that she thinks she is either divorced or going through a divorce. She gave me her married name and I sent her a friend request. She accepted and we had like 300 friends in common. How the hell did I never get her as a suggestion? Anyway......

After a few attempt at messaging her and getting just simple answers I realized that everything I had on Facebook said I was married I found a way to make it know I wasn't. Things took off from there, we met for lunch. She was everything I remembered. Sparks flew immediately and we got married 8-31-18 after dating for 15 months. She is the most beautiful, kindest, selfless and genuine person I have ever known. We have yet to have an argument. I have a beautiful step daughter (15) and a awesome step son (21), yep he is the one.

Long winded and probably boring for most but it is the most important story of my earthly life.

For those in love, keep loving. For those looking for love, know it is an amazing thing that takes work and patience.

Good night everyone.

[TrevorM3]

married chick i haven't spoken to in over a year messages me on IG at 730 AM yesterday.

"hey how are you, long time, lets be friends again"

asked her how she's doing, and she says really great. I'm like ok, why are you texting me then?


we have a complicated history..

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

So...
Plan was to help her out with an interview for a class, said she'd rather meet over coffee. Then turned to grabbing beers at a local bar. Just texted me asking if we could just do it at my place

Maybe I won't catch corona after all but now I'm scared I'll catch something else

She came over, had fun, then went to a bar downtown to grab beers. Actually enjoyed my time and our conversation. Pretty, witty, and can talk art past "oh that looks nice"; I actually learned a few things from her and I absolutely LOVE when that happens

I was telling my friend this morning - I'm never going to learn The nice girl and I kinda died down and I don't feel bad about it whatsoever, this is the trouble girl.

[Dang3r]

You know what happened to me last time I was alone into my gyms sauna?
There was this woman, really not my taste, came in and sat down. I felt her look and then she asks straight, if Im married. I replied like "you wanna sign up for apply?" Nah, she says, she was just looking between my legs and what she saw was promising enough to her for some good fun. But, and therefore she'd asked, just with married men, because when she would get rid of somebody she hasnt to fear many crosswinds at married men.
I have to admit that I would be never as keen as she to ask some woman this way, but it seems to be clever to avoid any inconvenience.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by TrevorM3

married chick i haven't spoken to in over a year messages me on IG at 730 AM yesterday.

"hey how are you, long time, lets be friends again"

asked her how she's doing, and she says really great. I'm like ok, why are you texting me then?


we have a complicated history..

There's probably much more to that text she's leaving out lol. Be ready

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by premier3is

There's probably much more to that text that she's leaving out lol. Be ready

+1

This is the "I want to make sure I still have him as a back up" text.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

She came over, had fun, then went to a bar downtown to grab beers. Actually enjoyed my time and our conversation. Pretty, witty, and can talk art past "oh that looks nice"; I actually learned a few things from her and I absolutely LOVE when that happens

I was telling my friend this morning - I'm never going to learn The nice girl and I kinda died down and I don't feel bad about it whatsoever, this is the trouble girl.

You're in the fun phase, you have no desire to be in a serious healthy LTR lol. Be honest with yourself

[FuriouslyFast]

Had another flake today use the kid is sick excuse. Definitely don't wanna meet you anyway after that. Do not need COVID19.

She asked to reschedule & I said "No thanks, tired of all the flakes here" & she replied with the typical "my kid comes first"

Bitch, my life comes first......

[Rmtt]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

Had another flake today use the kid is sick excuse. Definitely don't wanna meet you anyway after that. Do not need COVID19.

She asked to reschedule & I said "No thanks, tired of all the flakes here" & she replied with the typical "my kid comes first"

Bitch, my life comes first......

Not to play "devil's advocate"...but when you are single and have a kid...that will happen.

I had custody of my daughter and let anyone know that she was my priority. Most women never met her anyway.

There aren't too many single women out there at that age that will not have kids except in rare circumstances. My wife didn't because she had Ovarian Cancer and couldn't have kids.

But she became more of a mother to my daughter than her own mom ever was.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Not to play "devil's advocate"...but when you are single and have a kid...that will happen.

I had custody of my daughter and let anyone know that she was my priority. Most women never met her anyway.

There aren't too many single women out there at that age that will not have kids except in rare circumstances. My wife didn't because she had Ovarian Cancer and couldn't have kids.

But she became more of a mother to my daughter than her own mom ever was.

I know it happens, but my point is it's an easy excuse & A LOT of them use it on these apps/sites. I've been around long enough to know

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by Rmtt

Not to play "devil's advocate"...but when you are single and have a kid...that will happen.

I had custody of my daughter and let anyone know that she was my priority. Most women never met her anyway.

There aren't too many single women out there at that age that will not have kids except in rare circumstances. My wife didn't because she had Ovarian Cancer and couldn't have kids.

But she became more of a mother to my daughter than her own mom ever was.

I agree with this.

In most cases I am not willing to date women with kids, at least in a serious way. There are a few exceptions, but the women my age (29) and younger with kids seem to make poor decisions and have very little grasp on life. Most got pregnant with some guy they dated for under a year, have no idea how to raise a kid (the kid runs their life), and have this attitude of "people can't handle that I have a kid because they suck". Like I said there are a few exceptions, women who got divorced, cheated on, significant other died, etc, who I'd be willing to date. Most of them are well educated, their kids are respectful, and they acknowledge that it can be challenging for someone else to take on.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by FuriouslyFast

I know it happens, but my point is it's an easy excuse & A LOT of them use it on these apps/sites. I've been around long enough to know

Dude I don't know, call it me being optimistic but at least that's somewhat believable.

An easy excuse is me saying "haha you know how engineering gets, can't meet tonight sorry!" after coming to my senses and realizing i matched with a thick girl only because I was super horny and not because I really wanted to spend time with that person

[Dang3r]

As long its relating to be a couple into the future all women with kids are out of considering. If its only for having fun for a short time or few nights I wouldnt complain about kids, as long as they stay outta my sights.
I never had a taste for kids in any way and women who considered to have a "full" family with me, came more quick to the clue, that this was the reason why Im gone.
Hence its not very appropriate to ask this at the first dates, its more tricky to find out her thoughts about that. But around 30 you have to count this in.

[pennsiveguy]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

I agree with this.

In most cases I am not willing to date women with kids, at least in a serious way. There are a few exceptions, but the women my age (29) and younger with kids seem to make poor decisions and have very little grasp on life. Most got pregnant with some guy they dated for under a year, have no idea how to raise a kid (the kid runs their life), and have this attitude of "people can't handle that I have a kid because they suck". Like I said there are a few exceptions, women who got divorced, cheated on, significant other died, etc, who I'd be willing to date. Most of them are well educated, their kids are respectful, and they acknowledge that it can be challenging for someone else to take on.

I'm fortunate to be in an age group (mid-50s) where most women aren't still raising kids, but I'm continually surprised at how many of them still have one or two at home that they haven't pried off the tit and shooed out the door. They don't want them to grow up, clearly. Major bummer. I'm not interested in any woman whose phone goes off every 10 minutes with a kid or kids who need something, and she willingly drops everything and caters to them. Pass.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Turkish Pickle

Dude I don't know, call it me being optimistic but at least that's somewhat believable.

An easy excuse is me saying "haha you know how engineering gets, can't meet tonight sorry!" after coming to my senses and realizing i matched with a thick girl only because I was super horny and not because I really wanted to spend time with that person

Nah, when 99% of em do it & do it often, it's just an easy excuse they can get away with. I trust no one until proven otherwise. Trust is earned.

[FuriouslyFast]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

As long its relating to be a couple into the future all women with kids are out of considering. If its only for having fun for a short time or few nights I wouldnt complain about kids, as long as they stay outta my sights.

Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

As long its relating to be a couple into the future all women with kids are out of considering. If its only for having fun for a short time or few nights I wouldnt complain about kids, as long as they stay outta my sights.
I never had a taste for kids in any way and women who considered to have a "full" family with me, came more quick to the clue, that this was the reason why Im gone.
Hence its not very appropriate to ask this at the first dates, its more tricky to find out her thoughts about that. But around 30 you have to count this in.

I matched with a girl not too long ago who's number I got since she seemed pretty chill and was hot. After 2 days of texting she was like so yea I want 2 labs and 3-4 kids, just putting that out there so if you don't it probably won't work out.. At that point I knew it wasn't gona work out lol, but kept talking for a day or 2 longer.

I stopped replying once the bitch told me to watch my language when I used the word fuck in a sentence. Ok bitch you're like 30, grow up you'll be fine. And she could text non stop for hours and hours just making my phone buzz nonstop. Couldn't take it no more lol.

[Turkish Pickle]

Originally Posted by Dang3r

As long its relating to be a couple into the future all women with kids are out of considering. If its only for having fun for a short time or few nights I wouldnt complain about kids, as long as they stay outta my sights.
I never had a taste for kids in any way and women who considered to have a "full" family with me, came more quick to the clue, that this was the reason why Im gone.
Hence its not very appropriate to ask this at the first dates, its more tricky to find out her thoughts about that. But around 30 you have to count this in.

I don't want kids yet but I somehow get along with them. Kinda surprising given me and my brother fight like cats and dogs still

Originally Posted by pennsiveguy

I'm fortunate to be in an age group (mid-50s) where most women aren't still raising kids, but I'm continually surprised at how many of them still have one or two at home that they haven't pried off the tit and shooed out the door. They don't want them to grow up, clearly. Major bummer. I'm not interested in any woman whose phone goes off every 10 minutes with a kid or kids who need something, and she willingly drops everything and caters to them. Pass.

I'm scared same thing will happen with my mom and my brother - I've been basically "out of the house" since 18 especially with college abroad, but before that I was never really 24/7 with my parents either. My brother though, hoooo boy I feel sorry for the kid at this point but he also isn't willing to learn. I literally made the mistakes he's making rn when I was his age (5-6 years ago, basically) and he still thinks he knows best...

Originally Posted by premier3is

I matched with a girl not too long ago who's number I got since she seemed pretty chill and was hot. After 2 days of texting she was like so yea I want 2 labs and 3-4 kids, just putting that out there so if you don't it probably won't work out.. At that point I knew it wasn't gona work out lol, but kept talking for a day or 2 longer.

I stopped replying once the bitch told me to watch my language when I used the word fuck in a sentence. Ok bitch you're like 30, grow up you'll be fine. And she could text non stop for hours and hours just making my phone buzz nonstop. Couldn't take it no more lol.

Lol I went on a few dates with someone who kept on saying frick and fudge. Kinda cute at first but then I was like "do you not swear, like at all" and she basically said something about how Jesus doesn't like people who swear.

That's when I had to send the "hey I think you're cute but this won't work out, good luck and have fun" text

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by premier3is

I matched with a girl not too long ago who's number I got since she seemed pretty chill and was hot. After 2 days of texting she was like so yea I want 2 labs and 3-4 kids, just putting that out there so if you don't it probably won't work out.. At that point I knew it wasn't gona work out lol, but kept talking for a day or 2 longer.

I stopped replying once the bitch told me to watch my language when I used the word fuck in a sentence. Ok bitch you're like 30, grow up you'll be fine. And she could text non stop for hours and hours just making my phone buzz nonstop. Couldn't take it no more lol.

People like that scare me, because from experience they are also the flakiest human beings on the planet and change their mind at will. Like how do you know exactly how many kids you want if you currently have zero? How do you know you want to live somewhere you've never been? People like this usually have unreasonable expectations for everything in life, and when it doesn't work out they freak out and don't know what to do.

[premier3is]

Originally Posted by CTinline-six

People like that scare me, because from experience they are also the flakiest human beings on the planet and change their mind at will. Like how do you know exactly how many kids you want if you currently have zero? How do you know you want to live somewhere you've never been? People like this usually have unreasonable expectations for everything in life, and when it doesn't work out they freak out and don't know what to do.

Funny this was, she was absolutely gorgeous. But now I understand why most dudes probably ran away lol.

[CTinline-six]

Originally Posted by premier3is

Funny this was, she was absolutely gorgeous. But now I understand why most dudes probably ran away lol.

This is where the hot and crazy scale comes in lol.

Shes the one that would marry you, crank out a few kids, then decides she is unhappy since life isn't exactly how she dreamed and take your ass through divorce court.

[FuriouslyFast]

Well, I'm not getting laid for weeks
Obviously, the chicks on the apps won't come out to play right now & my lady friend aka "migraine" went against my advice & went to one of her nanny jobs today so I told her she will not see me for weeks now. smh